Wake Me Up Before You Go-Go

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I am NOT a morning person by any stretch of the imagination.  Brain feels fried and groggy, body has aches like a 90 year old who did stunt devil’s work for decades, face looks like it’s been hit with a mallet….yeah I know, drop dead sexy visual, right?   So what’s a girl to do who has a job that starts before noon?

MUSIC!  Music is my saving grace, able to alter any mood with its melodious harmonies and crooning voices.  The invention of the iPod is probably the greatest one in recent history (besides the internet of course, couldn’t talk to you peeps without that, right?) and allows thousands of songs to be conveniently available at the spin of a tiny dial.

My question for you is:  What are three songs that instantly perk you up, get you on your way, and turn AAAAHHHH GRRRR into MMMM.   Let’s hear it!

I’ll start.  My 3 instant mood perk me up songs are:

1. PYT – Michael Jackson = I love this song so much I’m having it as a part of my license plate…what? I AM a P(retty) Y(oung) T(hang) so it fits!

2. Blame it on the Boogie – Jackson 5 = this song just gets me going! it’s so upbeat and I love the end.  Video is cute too, just all around fun.

3. 5 Star Chick – Yo Gotti, Gucci Mane, Nicki Minaj = Had to get my bit of ghetto driving music in here 😀

Well those are mine!  What are your 3 get up and get em songs?


And that’s MISS ROSS to You

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What comes to mind when I think of the amazing Diana Ross is Icon, Diva, sassy, beautiful, and the embodiment of the word GLAMOROUS.

This magnanimous woman has had a career that spans 5 decades and includes musical success, both with The Supremes and as a solo artist, along with a movie career that gave her memorable roles and an Oscar nomination.  I’ve always thought of her first when Motown and glamor come to mind, but it wasn’t until my boo Michael Jackson died (they’d been such close friends and I felt that I wanted to know more about her) that I actually started researching into her career and life, thus leading me to read her biography: Diana Ross by J. Randy Taraborrelli When I say Miss Ross has LIVED, that’d be an understatement!  I HIGHLY recommend the book, it showcases her drive and hunger for success, gives a poignant look into the woman.

Why am I even mentioning any of this?  BECAUSE I’M FREAKING EXCITED, that’s why! 😛  Guess who’s going to see the diva in action?  The superstar will be on her “More Today Than Yesterday: The Greatest Hits Tour” performing in select cities and I am so thrilled to be going to check her out on September 14th in New York.

Now the hunt is on for a totally fun, glamorous, chic outfit that will be worthy of even being in the same ZIP CODE as Miss Ross.  And let’s not forget the MAKEUP that will have to be on point 😀  I need your help, what are some of your favorite online shops (or Chicago boutiques for any fellow Chicagoans)  for sparkly glam apparel?  Give me some ideas!  *Smooches*

Ice Cold Blue

Today was one of those days where I didn’t like my hair.  All day I’d planned on washing it with my new tingle tree shampoo by trader joes, deep conditioning with aubrey organics honeysuckle rose, then just twisting it up and not thinking about it.  Of course, I procrastinated and that led to it being 6:30 and a friend asking did I want to go out to a basketball game and then drinks.  OH NOES, not with this head of dry hair that I am not feeling today.  Commence bargaining and pleas and now I find myself having to go out with less than stellar hair…So, what is a girl to do?  MAKE-UP!

Honestly, if the hair isn’t how I want it to be, why not just have fun with the makeup, throw on a headband, and chuck up the deuces?  That is precisely what I decided to do, after moisturizing with a bit of Qhemet Amla/Olive heavy cream so that I don’t completely resemble a tumbleweed.  So now I find myself with iPod on full volume (and I take it as a sign that even though the music is on random, one of the first songs to come blaring out was P.Y.T. by Michael Jackson, my ultimate good mood jam.  So really, who am I to ignore the signs?)

Makeup look for the evening:  Make Up For Ever HD foundation in Cognac #177, Love Life blush by Victoria’s Secret, Diorshow Mascara in Black, and the L’Oreal HIP duo in Showy along with a purple lipgloss that the name has rubbed off of, but I believe is by L’Oreal as well. I didn’t bother with eyeshadow primer potion or anything, because I’m just going to the game and don’t need it to last all day because it’s already 8pm.  Voila, pick-me-upper of the day 😀

Cornrows for the Win

My best friend came over and gave me cornrows; I’m so grateful since I can’t do them myself!  They aren’t for style right now, just wanted a protective style and wearing wigs over them when I leave the house.  Next time that I do them, we’re going to practice with extensions, that should be an adventure, lol.  It doesn’t LOOK hard to do the cornrows with added hair, but we shall SEEEEEEE, verdad?

Cowashed with Organix shea butter conditioner and olive oil, then braided with the amla/olive cream and sprayed with my aloe concoction.  Yay for protective winter styles!  I’ll leave these in for a week or two I suppose, spraying every day with my aloe grow spray and maybe slathering on some coconut oil to seal.

below, pic of me wigging it out 🙂  Easy instant makeover:

Wigging it

Winter is certainly in full effect out here! I’m so over the cold, snow, ice, chilly winds.  Can it be spring already?  To get our minds off of the ferocious coldness, my friend and I were contemplating where we need to take a vacation for next year so that We can have time to save.  Top two trip contenders at the moment are Italy (Rome, Florence, etc)  and Brazil (not sure what city or anything).


Italy Trevi Fountain

I’ve been to Italy, which was amazingly beautiful and historical, great food too so I’ve always wanted to go back, but it’d be nice to try somewhere new right?  In that vein, Brazil would be amazing.  My mom has been there, but I have not, so it would be a fab experience I’d say.  Hell, either of the two beats cold Chicago right now!  Even if it’s cold there, it’d be a change of cold scenery, so good enough for me!  Have you been to either place?  What were your experiences?

hair hero:  watching This Is It movie and anytime I tear my eyes away from Michael I am admiring Judith Hill’s awesome hair

Homemade Concoction

In the past couple of months I’ve been compiling many bits and pieces of information on how to grow strong, healthy, long hair.  The products that I’ve wanted and tried have been showcased on my blog, since I’m all about the premade, just buy and use products, lol.  Now, however, I am going to mix up my own concoction from a variety of sources and see how that goes for my hair.  Don’t get me wrong, I ADORE all of the products I’ve bought so far (well, most of them, there are a couple that haven’t fared too well in the reviews section of my site) and plan to continue, especially the thick butters and creams that I use on my hair like Qhemet Biologics amla and olive heavy cream (aka cavier for the hair, LOVE it).

But why compile all of this lovely info if I in turn do nothing with it??  So when my Oyin Frank Juice runs out, I’m using the bottle to create my own super grow spray 😀  It will be a mix of the following:

Aloe Vera (99.7 aloe vera juice)

a bit of olive oil

rosemary oil

tea tree oil with lavender extract

peppermint oil (maybe)


mix all of that together and put into the spray bottle for a daily spray for my lovely locks.  Sounds like a good plan!  Peppermint stimulates the scalp, rosemary aids in growth, olive oil is rich, should be an all-star lineup 😀  I’ll let you all know how that goes!  Got any homemade concoctions you just adore and can’t live without??

hair hero: my late, great sweetie Michael Jackson in his afro days

A Fitting Tribute

Today the incomparable King of Pop, Michael Jackson, was given a truly beautiful, stunning, wonderful tribute to his life at his memorial.  I was wondering how it would turn out and if it would be truly befitting a legend like that, who will only come around once in a lifetime, and it actually lived up to and exceeded expectations.  Rev. Al Sharpton was poignant, Smokey Robinson and Berry Gordy were endearing, and the soft instrumental of “Man in the Mirror” while his casket was being wheeled out was one of the saddest moments in my life.  I cried through the whole thing and was so appreciative that they did such an amazing final farewell for Michael’s and the fans’ sakes.  It was exactly as a memorial should be.

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What saddens me the most about everything is that everyone seems to have forgotten his humanitarian efforts; everyone in the mainstream media that is.  Even though he’s made some of the best music and tours, broken all types of records, and had a career that will never be beat, his charitable works are what’s truly amazing.  He’s in the Guiness book of world records as most charitable pop star since he supported 39 charities (those are whats known, he also donated proceeds from many of his concerts or gave anonymously.  it’s thought that he’s given around $500 MILLION in charitable contributions over his lifetime.)  Here he talks about his time spent visiting hospitals and when he met a boy who needed a liver so he found him one and paid for everything:

As well, he broke down racial barriers.  MTV didn’t want to play him because they felt that black music wouldn’t sell or translate well and then lo and behold, Billie Jean took them from some random basement operation into the stratosphere.  Rolling Stones didnt want him on their cover and then he became iconic and they had to have him.  No star, black or white, had gotten an endorsement deal like the one Pepsi gave him for $10 million in the early 80s.  But, no no, let’s ONLY focus on the one thing that is completely unfounded about him. Not the things that we have confirmed proof of…oh no, that would be unamerican! “We Are The World” raised 50 million for famine in africa…ONE song! Let alone all of the other charitable works he did…but let’s just talk about the crappy case from a money hungry sleazeball who tried to kill his kid later and was caught on tape saying he wanted to milk Michael for all he was worth and ruin his life. Read this link for some insight: http://kingofpopmichael.info/the-false-abuse/

Michael was odd, sure, but a lot of it was something to remain in the news and the rest was his coping with a life none of us can understand from starting work at age 5, having no real childhood, shielding his vitiligo skin from sunlight by odd “costumes”, and having body dysmorphic disorder.  I really wish that none of the weird or bad things had happened, so that his legacy could have stood on it’s own as one of the best selling recording artists ever with over 750 million copies sold, world records galore, awards galore, loyal fans, unparalled charity work,  amazingly unique music/videos/tours, and a professionalism mixed with creative drive that is remarkable.  It also seems like he never got to have any great love of his life, which is really quite sad seeing as to how he set so many hearts aflutter and made so many happy.  He deserved better than 2 sham marriages.  Hopefully his children will be happy in life and well adjusted; it was heartbreaking to see Paris break down at the funeral.

I know that I never even met the man, but there is something about him and his childlike smile that makes me want to hug him.  His sensitive and giving spirit speak to me at some deep level, and then there is the tragic aspect of his life with the tabloid nightmare scandals and lack of one great love that makes me wish that I could turn back time and completely change things for his benefit.  I can be a big sap sometimes and the story of Michael Jackson brings out that sap in me because it just seems like so much went wrong when it should have all been right right right.  I cry for the cute little boy he was who had such dreams and at the same time I cry for the sexy gorgeous man he became and didn’t even know just how beautiful he was.  I cry for the painfully shy part of him that was at such a disconnect with the uber confident, crotch grabbing performer side.  I cry that he was surrounded by leeches who didn’t have his best interest in mind and I cry that he turned to plastic surgery and prescriptive drugs for his pain.  I just hope that somewhere in there he had fun and had happiness.  I’ll always “Remember the Times” Michael, and thank you for making them GOOD times.

Never Can Say Goodbye

Yesterday we lost a musical ICON/LEGEND/MEGASTAR when we lost Michael Jackson.  I was shocked into a stupor and into denial, as were many people, because honestly he seemed incapable of death, if that makes any sense.  I just never even thought about him dying.  How do you say goodbye to someone who has decades of music that was the soundtrack to your life, your first crush, an amazing career like that?  How do you say goodbye to an icon?  From the days of being a cutie pie in the Jackson 5 to being  a revolutionary solo artist, Michael Jackson forever changed music and videos.

Crying as I watched the tribute shows and videos, it really hit me as to how many of this man’s songs were ingrained in me.  It’d be nearly impossible to pick a favorite, as they were so diverse and spaced out.  I’d have to go by age/era.   This is  a tribute to my LOVE and admiration for the guy who made music worth listening to for decades.  Not to mention, have you seen that smile? He deserves accolades just for that beautiful smile.


young Michael/Jackson Five era

When Ben came on the radio today as I was driving, I seriously almost had an accident since I was crying so much.  This beautiful song already was a tear-jerker to the inner sap in me, and then with the circumstances?  I was practically inconsolable.  This, with Who’s Loving You; Music and Me; and I’ll Be There, I Want You Back have always been my favorites from a young Michael.  They are songs that I can hear 1000000000 times and still perk up in excitement and cherish.  I still can’t believe that he’s gone…that angelic voice of his youth is the stuff that dreams are made of.

Teen Michael/The Jacksons

I absolutely LOOOOOVE “All I Do is Think of You” and could seriously listen to that song on repeat for the rest of my life and be fine with it.  So underrated, just makes me want to be all “squeeeee” and in love, lol.   That along with “Blame it on the Boogie“, “Find Me a Girl”  and “Dance Machine” are highlights of those years for me.  Great music and he was beyond adorable at the time.  Bouncy fluffy fro and big smile, I would have MELTED as a teenager in the 70s.

Off the Wall

Rock with you, that’s all I have to say about that.  What perfection that song is, he just sounds heavenly.  Oh yes, I’d love for that to be singing me to sleep, rock the night away indeed!

Thriller Era Michael

Human Nature is a BEAUTIFUL song on that Cd.  Honestly, I thought it was from one of his later cds, it sounds so mature and wonderful.  Thriller is fun, Beat It is hot,PYT is my FAVORITE and will be jamming at my wedding, and Billie Jean….iconic!  And with 109  million copies sold to date, obviously I’m not the only one who loved that cd.  And the way that the media is now, I know that no one will ever top his record.  Job well done, Michael 😉

BAD era (my favorite era…oh the things i’d do to HIM)

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My very first foray into Michael Jackson Mania was with my cousin who was in her late teens/early 20s around the time of the BAD and then DANGEROUS cds.  When I say that she was obsessed, it’s an understatement.  It was so bad that as a child (around 2-4), I actually thought that she was dating him because his was the only male name that I heard from her, she had his face plastered all over her walls and dressers, his music was the only thing that she listened to and she called him her boyfriend.  So of course young me really thought he was and I was so happy for her.  BAD still remains my favorite cd of his, from the simple fact of it was the soundtrack of my young years and I saw the videos on total repeat (you know she had every video and his little movies like Moonwalker and Captain Eo on vhs).  BAD along with him in SPEED DEMON (I can only describe him as beautiful in that video.  His smile was on a whole different level, and this was where the surgery was perfect and where he should have stopped.  Face still moved naturally, everything was gorgeous) set me on my path to being infatuated with light skinned/long haired men all through my teen days years later.  I hadn’t even made the connection until I thought about how many of my exes looked similar to that style.  God, I still want to lick the screen whenever BAD comes on; the clothes, the confidence/swagger, the dances….mmm, he could have SO got it back then.    My other  favorite song from that CD would have to be THE WAY YOU MAKE ME FEEL.  I always get a smile when it comes on.  DIRTY DIANA and ANOTHER PART OF ME are also great hits from that cd.  And we can’t forget Smooth Criminal and Man in the Mirror.  Pretty much the whole frigging cd, really!  I like the BAD cd even better than the record breaking THRILLER. And video wise, there is NOTHING like the sexiness of Come Together:

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On the Dangerous CD, I love “Give in to Me”  and, “In the Closet” (can we talk about him and naomi in this video?  GOTDAMN, THAT IS HOT) and  “Who is it”  Good CD, but not my favorite like lots of fans.  Thriller and Bad top it for me!  I like other songs here and there on the later cds, but these outlined here are my clear favorites.

If nothing else, Michael Jackson was distinctive and will never be duplicated (as hard as most try…I’m looking at you, Chris Brown, Usher, and Ne-yo, among others).  His reputation may have been tarnished in the last 15 years, but his music and cultural impact speaks for itself.  He was the first black artist “allowed” on MTV, revolutionized the way music videos were done, spawned fashion trends that defined a decade, was a pure humanitarian, and set many a heart afire.  I wish that his personal life could have been as rewarding as the professional life, but with a rough childhood and what seems to have been body dysmorphic disorder, that goal of peace in life was sadly never to be reached and it saddens me that he was never truly happy even though he made so many happy.

What really saddens me and makes me want to hug him is how misunderstood I feel that he was.  Everything personal conspired against the poor man.  First his dad was an abusive psycho jerk and he was deprived a childhood which made him fascinated with being a kid later in life.  Then came the issues that made him so unhappy with his physical.  Being called “big nose” by his dad, a broken nose and botched surgery to fix it, hair catching on fire  and needing reconstructive surgery, vitiligo….how much can one person take?    So no wonder he liked being around kids, as they were probably the only ones who didn’t judge him or expect something in return for friendship.  Interesting how molestation charges only came up once the kid’s dad and Michael fell out and the dad said “I will ruin his life, it will be a win win for me” meaning he’d get money and destroy Michael’s life.  http://kingofpopmichael.info/the-false-abuse/ Because as we all saw, even if falsly accused of something like that, you never bounce back.  Then that opened the door for other leeches to come forward with the same type of bs.  For a man who is in the guiness book of world records for charitable work, a known patron for children, and a shy sweetheart, I just don’t  see him having touched those kids inappropriately.  I hate that it ruined his life and wish that so many things could have been different.  Such talent and such musical genius and all some can talk about is the weirdness that happened later.  No wonder he felt so alone.

I somehow never thought that this day would come, but goodbye to the King of Pop, Michael Jackson.  You were one-in-a-million and I know that I’m not alone in saying that you will be missed.  We may have never understood you and it didn’t seem like you understood yourself, but the passion and dedication you put into your craft was undeniable and inspiring to all.  You “thrilled” us and indeed, are “gone too soon”.  RIP to the gloved one.

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