Doing it and doing it again

Doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity….read more at the new blog home:

Real Black Nobility/Royals

There are beautiful black women who are now princesses, countesses, baroness, and more!  I love that; check them out at the new site:

36 Things Every Single Girl Should Do

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I stumbled across this list in the blogosphere and thought it’d be fun to see where I measure up, have I done many of the things?  What about you, how does your life measure up on this list? (I’ve bolded the things that I’ve done)

36 Things Every Single Girl Must Do Before She Settles Down

**To Build Your Confidence**

1. Go to a movie alone. [me: I have no issues with doing that, I’m not there to talk to you during the movie anyway!]

2. Lift weights.

3. Try surfing, water-skiing, or some activity you don’t already know how to do. Could be riding a bicycle. [Me: Does Karoake count? I hadn’t done that til this year with some alcohol confidence]

4. Take out the trash, set a mousetrap, do your taxes, build a bookcase.

5. Live alone, or at least move apartments in NYC without the help of family.

6. Train for (and finish) a huge physical test like a half-marathon.

7. Go to a scary doctor’s appointment by yourself.

8. Quit your job.

9. Fly to a foreign country by yourself. [I wasn’t alone, but I was a student ambassador and with a group of people that I didn’t know.  14 without my mom was something I’d never done, not THAT far (7 European countries, 3 weeks)]

10. Learn to stand up for yourself. [me: Yeah that’s not a problem]

**To Be Able to Look Back and Say “I Had Fun”**

11. Witness something once-in-a-lifetime, like Jokulsarlon, a lake next to a melting glacier in Iceland.

12. Revel in being able to watch all the TV you want.

13. Get drunk during the day, just because you can. Attend Santacon, the convention for santas, or similar.

14. Go on a date with someone who actually makes you nervous. [me: good nervous, not like “i think he’s a serial killer…oh what the hell may as well]

15. Go out with an older man who takes you somewhere nice and makes you feel like a million bucks.

16. Go out with a guy who makes you laugh ‘til it hurts.

**To Get Perspective**

17. Be a good wingwoman. It’s not always about you.

18. Chill with your widowed and single grandma. She knows “alone”!

19. Volunteer.

**To Make You Appreciate the Next Guy**

20. Do at least one Valentine’s Day alone. [me: oh wait, i had a choice in that??]

21. Attend a wedding (or 15) alone.

22. Date the creeps. You’ll really value the nice guys afterward. [meh, not going for that one. i already know a good one when I see him]
**To Make You Feel Sexy and Attractive**

23. Buy yourself some flowers.

24. Invest in a LBD (little black dress) and some sexy stilettos.

25. Sit at a bar by yourself and drink a martini. Cool.

26. Buy something frivolous and expensive that you LOVE wearing.

**To Make the Most of Your Free Time**

27. Finish all your schooling if you can.

28. Throw yourself into something time-consuming, like learning a foreign language. You may not have time to do this again until you retire and the kids are off to college. [I want to refreshen my Spanish so that I’m fluent at it, need to stop putting it off!]
**To Make Yourself a Better Partner in the Future**

29. Make a list of all your faults.

30. Learn to cook well.

31. Get some hobbies. Something’s gotta keep you occupied—plus it’ll make you seem interesting. [blogging count? and being a foodie :D]

32. Let your married friends edit your online dating profile.

33. Get your finances in order. [ugh, I’m trying…would be nice to have super steady income to DO so!]

**To Appreciate Being Single**

34. Babysit someone’s baby for an hour. [babysitting right now. I love the kids, love my lil munchkin. And I was a nanny, so um yeah, got that covered]

35. Help a friend through her divorce or a bad break-up.

36. Host a girls-only night. I think some coupled-up women forget how much we need each other.

What have I forgotten? What do you make sure to do while you’re still single?

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A Fitting Tribute

Today the incomparable King of Pop, Michael Jackson, was given a truly beautiful, stunning, wonderful tribute to his life at his memorial.  I was wondering how it would turn out and if it would be truly befitting a legend like that, who will only come around once in a lifetime, and it actually lived up to and exceeded expectations.  Rev. Al Sharpton was poignant, Smokey Robinson and Berry Gordy were endearing, and the soft instrumental of “Man in the Mirror” while his casket was being wheeled out was one of the saddest moments in my life.  I cried through the whole thing and was so appreciative that they did such an amazing final farewell for Michael’s and the fans’ sakes.  It was exactly as a memorial should be.

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What saddens me the most about everything is that everyone seems to have forgotten his humanitarian efforts; everyone in the mainstream media that is.  Even though he’s made some of the best music and tours, broken all types of records, and had a career that will never be beat, his charitable works are what’s truly amazing.  He’s in the Guiness book of world records as most charitable pop star since he supported 39 charities (those are whats known, he also donated proceeds from many of his concerts or gave anonymously.  it’s thought that he’s given around $500 MILLION in charitable contributions over his lifetime.)  Here he talks about his time spent visiting hospitals and when he met a boy who needed a liver so he found him one and paid for everything:

As well, he broke down racial barriers.  MTV didn’t want to play him because they felt that black music wouldn’t sell or translate well and then lo and behold, Billie Jean took them from some random basement operation into the stratosphere.  Rolling Stones didnt want him on their cover and then he became iconic and they had to have him.  No star, black or white, had gotten an endorsement deal like the one Pepsi gave him for $10 million in the early 80s.  But, no no, let’s ONLY focus on the one thing that is completely unfounded about him. Not the things that we have confirmed proof of…oh no, that would be unamerican! “We Are The World” raised 50 million for famine in africa…ONE song! Let alone all of the other charitable works he did…but let’s just talk about the crappy case from a money hungry sleazeball who tried to kill his kid later and was caught on tape saying he wanted to milk Michael for all he was worth and ruin his life. Read this link for some insight:

Michael was odd, sure, but a lot of it was something to remain in the news and the rest was his coping with a life none of us can understand from starting work at age 5, having no real childhood, shielding his vitiligo skin from sunlight by odd “costumes”, and having body dysmorphic disorder.  I really wish that none of the weird or bad things had happened, so that his legacy could have stood on it’s own as one of the best selling recording artists ever with over 750 million copies sold, world records galore, awards galore, loyal fans, unparalled charity work,  amazingly unique music/videos/tours, and a professionalism mixed with creative drive that is remarkable.  It also seems like he never got to have any great love of his life, which is really quite sad seeing as to how he set so many hearts aflutter and made so many happy.  He deserved better than 2 sham marriages.  Hopefully his children will be happy in life and well adjusted; it was heartbreaking to see Paris break down at the funeral.

I know that I never even met the man, but there is something about him and his childlike smile that makes me want to hug him.  His sensitive and giving spirit speak to me at some deep level, and then there is the tragic aspect of his life with the tabloid nightmare scandals and lack of one great love that makes me wish that I could turn back time and completely change things for his benefit.  I can be a big sap sometimes and the story of Michael Jackson brings out that sap in me because it just seems like so much went wrong when it should have all been right right right.  I cry for the cute little boy he was who had such dreams and at the same time I cry for the sexy gorgeous man he became and didn’t even know just how beautiful he was.  I cry for the painfully shy part of him that was at such a disconnect with the uber confident, crotch grabbing performer side.  I cry that he was surrounded by leeches who didn’t have his best interest in mind and I cry that he turned to plastic surgery and prescriptive drugs for his pain.  I just hope that somewhere in there he had fun and had happiness.  I’ll always “Remember the Times” Michael, and thank you for making them GOOD times.


don’t forget to get out and vote today, if you’re over 18!!! Make it count.

 Yay for changes!

Happy Halloween!

Hello 🙂  Have fun out there tonight if you’re doing anything devilishly fun!  I’d love to see pics of great Halloween makeup. 

Sorry for the wait

Just watched top model…Bianca has come up leaps and bounds from when I last wrote about her.  She’s grown up some, mentally, and isn’t being a ghetto biotch anymore.  Go Bianca!  Heather was GORGEOUS this episode.  Seriously, she looked AMAZING once she got dressed up and done up.  Lovely.  I feel bad for Ambreal because she can’t seem to get her shit together and you can tell that she really wants it.  Poor baby!  I really don’t like the 2 blondes, Chantel (sp?) and that other weird looking ice-blonde chick….EBONY GO HOME PLEASE!

 So yeah, it’s been a very long time since I’ve written.  Just been busy and suffering writers-block.  Poor me.  I need to go buy some new make-up to jumpstart my desire to write 😉  I’ll have a beauty/fashion related blog very soon.  Later my loves

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