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Stretching your natural hair curls

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Nature’s Super Fruit: Olive Oil

Beauty regimens benefit greatly from using olive oil!  Check out more at the new blog:

The Natural Hair Help Guide

Feeling overwhelmed by all of the natural hair info out there? need help on where to start?  check out my natural hair help guide at my new blog home:

Curly Girl

Finally had my pretty curls put in that I’ve been talking about!  check them out at my new home:

The 5 Stages of a Natural Hair Journey

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Today we welcome a guest blogger to Socialite Dreams; let’s give a warm hello to Raven of She came up with the idea of breaking down the 5 stages of a natural hair journey and I found it to be quite interesting, hope that you do as well.  I cracked up at how spot on it was, like wow are we all that predictable?? LOL.  What step are you on if also a natural babe?  I’m a Naturalista Geek.


Writer Babe Raven


The 5 Stages of a Natural Hair Journey
Naturalista Newbie
You either did a big chop or you’re just not straightening your hair anymore.  Right now, you may be at conflict with the “un-straightness” of your locks. You feel liberated and at once shackled. You feel like you don’t “know” yourself without straight hair. Looking at other curly coifed chicks, you wonder if God cursed you with untamable kinks that know no bounds when it shrinkage, dryness or definition is involved.
Verdict: At this point, you are a complete stranger to the stuff growing out of your scalp.

Naturalista Novice
You’ve discovered Terri LaFlesh, BGLH, Curly Nikki or one of the other many online natural hair care communities. You are learning Naturalista lingo and lore like the “Curly Girl Method” or what co-washing is. You are busy categorizing your hair as 3a or 4a. You are in pursuit of the almighty perfect curl (or twist out). Lurking YouTube or voraciously consuming various beauty blogs is a 6-hour pastime. You have about 2 sets of satin pillow cases and nighttime routines for your hair are a hilarious spectacle to behold.
Verdict: Product junkie-ism has just begun

Naturalista Geek
You’ve seen your hair at its best and at its worst.  Your product junkie-ism has reached its apex.  Now, you’ve become obsessed with learning about specific hair care ingredients, techniques and whatever else you can learn. You dream of going to a Miss Jessie’s or Devachan salon. When you discuss hair, you damn near sound like a chemist. People suspect you have a lab somewhere in your basement stocked with beaker tubes and shea butter tubs. You’ve got a few routine styles under your belt.
Verdict: Essentially, you and your hair are like old friends who have the occasional fight.

Naturalista Pro
You are dedicated to a routine and very rarely stray from it.  You’re still looking for “holy grail” products, but you keep up with a set of stylers and conditioners that haven’t let you down. You understand what stylers to use (and when).  You are well-versed in understanding product ingredients, certain hair care techniques and methods.  You’ve given up fighting your curls and let your hair just “be.” However, you know with some coaxing, it can behave. At this point, you’ve set some goals to achieve with your hair (like certain length, strength, porosity, etc.). People who have never seen you with straight hair say they “like your hair better that way.”
Verdict: Your hair has developed character which enhances your own style and image.

Naturalista Goddess
black model Jordan Richardson wearing a natural curly black hair style
You’ve reached whatever goals you’ve set for your hair (and its health). Now, it’s just about proper and consistent maintenance. Holy Grail products are old jokes to you. They’ve been replaced with a set rotation of products and techniques that you know work after months of experimentation and (re)searching. This comes along with a night routine that doesn’t take 20 years or have you looking like a nut case. You are no longer hung up on having your curls look a certain way since your curls will look different everyday of the week. You’ve mastered a variety of styles and are even less of a product junkie than ever. You may have even become an inspiration to other women who want to become Naturalistas.
Verdict: The almighty curl is the one growing out of your head.

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Corinne Bailey Rae Hair Inspiration

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The lush, full, bouncy, beautiful curls of Corinne Bailey Rae are calling my name!  Her mane is  thick, lovely, and a perfect example of big hair, don’t care gorgeousness 🙂

As many of you know, because I incessantly talk about it here and on twitter, I will be going to New York to see the true diva Miss Diana Ross in concert next month.  Can’t go see her in action without looking perfectly coiffed! This will be the perfect reason to do something that I’ve never done and get a full head sew-in so that I can have some big bouncy hair as well 🙂  In my opinion, Corinne’s hair is something of a modern, more defined version of Diana Ross’ signature big hair.

I’ve had sew-in hairstyles before, just never a FULL HEAD sew-in.  Generally some hair was left out when I was relaxed, which made it blend in with the added weave/extensions.  What I am wondering now is how will a full head sew in look, since I don’t plan on having my hair out?  Any of you ever had a full sew in?  What did you think of it? I’m also curious on what hair to buy to achieve that fluffy soft style, any suggestions?   And if you are in Chicago and know of anyone who’s awesome at doing the style, PLEASE let me know 🙂

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The Kinky Hair Chick

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The featured blogger today is Lilly Ashe, also known as The Kinky Hair Chick. Interested in being featured as well? Check here for more information.

Lilly Ashe-

1. How long have you been a natural hair diva?

Being a natural hair diva, is something I can say I have been pretty much ever since high
school. I went through periods off and on after school where I wore my hair in a relaxed
state than back again than back again to being natural. I was on a yo-yo when it came to
my hair, then after the birth of my first son I decided that I wanted to get locks in my hair,
and ended up having those for about a period of two years. Then I took the
locks out  and I was able to grow my relaxed hair out to shoulder
When my family and I changed towns I ended up changing hair stylists and she over
pressed my hair, it started to break so I got cornrows by her again and then my hair
starting to come out on the edges due to her braids being to tight!! Still growing my edges
back to say the least.
That is when I decided to go back to doing what I do best and that was having my hair in
its natural state. However the only dilemma was that although I wanted to wear my hair
in its natural state, the only way that I had worn my hair natural was always in braids and
sew –ins. That continued all through high school and then some, and when I had it in a
locked state. So I never knew how to do my own natural hair, or even where to start. I did
not want any more relaxers at all; I wanted versatility by not having locks and the
freedom of not having to pay someone to do my hair for me.  That is why I created kinkyhairchick so that I could show everyone my natural hair care journey. But keep in mind it is not just limited to hair; it is all around about being a better you and living a natural lifestyle. Everything from hair, health, fitness, business will be

2. What’s your usual hair regimen?

In the first couple of months when I started to sport a twa, I washed my hair every three days with Aubrey’s organics honey suckle rose shampoo, and conditioned with their coconut honey suckle conditioner. My hair was extremely dry in the beginning I even think I had some of that scab hair, yikes! That shampoo helped to smooth it out some and I used a leave in conditioner from Karens body beautiful their hair milk, and then finished it off with some curly qs curly jealousy. I so love that stuff!!!

Those three things really helped quenched my hairs thirst, from the shock that it was taking. Now that it has been about 4 ½ months in, my hair has grown 2 ½ inches and I now am able to do a little bit of styling, all though the main thing I like to do is rock my fro and leave it alone. I no longer wash every three days but once a week, with karens body beautiful conditioning shampoo, I do a deep conditioner with karens body beautiful hair mask. Followed by the leave in above and the sometimes Karens body beautiful hair nectar it comes in any scent that you like.

3. Who’s your celebrity inspiration for hair?  Makeup?  Fashion style?

My favorite hair inspiration right now is Lela James and Ya,Ya, formerly known as the Americas next top model that lost next to Eve, although I think that she should have won. I think they both embrace elegance and a pride of expressing their culture. I don’t really have anyone that I look to for fashion since I pull ideas and bits from here and there. Never really one person, but when it comes to make-up I like to see what Tyra Banks comes out with. I learned makeup from her book when I was younger and have used all her tips ever since.

4. What 3 makeup items can’t you live without?

Three makeup items that I can not live with out is Mac’s compact to powder foundation, Mac Eye Plush Thickening Mascara and burt’s bees lip balm in any falvor.

5. How would you describe your style?

My style is somewhat on the everything side, I have a very eclectic earthy sort of look with, a dash of conservative. I love everything natural from food to my hair and it shows in the style that I have. I wear a lot of peace signs, classy silver earrings, because I can’t wear anything else besides sterling. I love pants and tees and always one to buy shoes no one else would dare buy.  One thing I am known for are my funky looking head scarves, and my roman shoes sandals especially stylish ones are things that I love!

7. What made you go natural with your hair?

I went natural to stop being on a yo-yo hair kick when it came to my hair. I have very high standards for my hair and when the last person (stylist) could not get it right I decided to go solo, doing it all my self…. As you can see, I love being natural inside and out and would not have it any other way!!

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Kinky Curly Curling Custard pt II

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The other day I blogged about trying kinky curly custard for the first time, liking the results but knowing that I could have done better with the product.  A helpful reader, Farah, linked us to a video of her using the kccc and it greatly helped me for the second application!  The key was to brush the curls with the gel in, with a denman brush (or paddle wig brush which is what I used, but I plan to get a denman) to make the curls spring to form and distribute the product throughout.  What a difference it made!

Diane Wig Brush

So let’s have this picture step by step shall we?  First up, I did a pre-poo (pre-shampoo treatment to moisturize and condition the hair to prepare for the drying nature of shampooing) with olive oil, coconut oil, and Aubrey Organics Honeysuckle Rose.  I then washed my hair with Trader Joe’s Tingle Tree shampoo and conditioned with the V05 passionfruit smoothie conditioner.

Hair straight out of the shower:

Then I scrunched in Kinky Curly Knot Today in sections with the hair soaking wet.

Taking the paddle brush, I brushed that through a bit to make sure that it got to all of my curls.  Now it was time for the Curling Custard!  I also applied it in sections, smoothing some on in an area and then brushing it through while making sure that the hair was still super wet.  There was a cup of water on the sink that I used to pour more water into my hair if I felt that it wasn’t soaking wet.  By brushing, I noticed that the curls popped to become much more defined and the results were a super curly pretty head of hair:

So I am very happy with the product now that I’ve figured out how to best use it.  That brush can make all of the difference if you have a distinct curl pattern and want to make the curls stand out.  My cousin liked it so much that she is on her way over so that I can do her hair too! Lol, there’s a referral 😉

After the hair dried:

And what’s even better is that I got super cute SECOND day hair!  My hair NEVER looks the same the 2nd day with a wash-n-go, only if I do twistouts, so I was very very pleased to wake up and take off the bonnet to find my hair looked pretty much the same 😀  Just fluffed with Shea Moisture Curls Smoothie and kept it moving right on out the door!  Total win, so easy.

Thumbs up for the Kinky Curly Curling Custard, I think I’ve found a holy grail item!  Hope this helps those with questions on its use 🙂


Kinky Curly Curling Custard

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I found myself in Whole Foods yesterday, somewhere that I never am because there aren’t any in my area of Chicago, and what did I instantly gravitate towards?  You got it!  Beauty, skincare, and hair section.  Oh readers, you know me so well!

Low and behold, I came upon the Kinky Curly products and felt my arm automatically reaching out for the Kinky Curly Curling Custard (KCCC) which I’ve been wanting to try for quite some time now and just never made it to the store for a tub.  The Kinky Curly Knot Today (KCKT) was already in my arsenal because it came in that 4A kit that I mentioned in a previous post from CurlMart.

The scents of their products is a win in my book, with the KCKT smelling sweet and slightly fruity and the KCCC smells like cake/frosting!  I don’t smell it so much once IN my hair, but when I sniffed the actual products it’s sweet and pleasant.

Okay, so for the lowdown:  I cowashed my hair with Vo5 Passionfruit Smoothie because, as I said in another post, it makes my curls POP with definition.  Once out of the shower with soaking wet hair like the KCCC suggests, I slathered on a bit of KCKT in sections so that the hair could have a bit of moisture from a leave-in and then smooth on Curly Custard throughout.  Many naturals warn of using too much KCCC only to end up with crunchy hair and knowing that I can be a BIT heavyhanded, I tried my best to not use much.  I probably ended up not using enough, lol!  Yeesh.

Reader Farah has a great video up with her Kinky Curly routine (thanks Farah!) and I’ll be getting a denman brush so that I can follow her steps

soaking wet curls

Overall I like what I am seeing, but I would have been more careful with separating sections and smoothing on the KCCC with a purposeful hand.  I can see that it is making the curls hang better and gives the definition that it is supposed to.  The PRODUCT gets an A from me, my styling capabilities on the other hand get a C, lol.   My hair always looks better in person than in these photos, I’m finding.  So here’s ROUGHLY how it looks, but it’s prettier in person.


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